About Me

I was going to be named Ruth. My parents chose a different name for me, but Ruth was on the short list. This is interesting because I married into a family of Ruth's, all of which are not very fond of their name. But, I like the name. Maybe, because for me, I've wondered how having the name Ruth would have changed the projection of my life. 

Hello, I have struggled with the affects of my husband's addiction to pornography, childhood sexual abuse, and constant judgement. My name is.... Resilient Ruth. 

For the purposes of protection of my family, and to create a safe space, I will simply be Ruth here. I want to be honest about this one thing because my heart will be displayed on these pages. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Although I have been called to share these details of my life, my small children have not, my extended family has not, and I desire to protect them from having to develop answers for things they know nothing of. Simple association doesn't mean these people know the recesses of my heart. This has been a journey with myself, my husband, and a band of sisters that I have been surrounded by. 

I only write now because I cannot keep this story in any longer. I've tried, and I've ignored the call to share it many times over the years. The quiet whisper has gotten louder, and I can no longer ignore it. So here I am, out of an honoring of myself, and the creation of my story.  If you are the ONE person reading this. Hello. How are you? Wanna have coffee instead? It'd be easier. 

So why Ruth? The projection of my life did change after a renewal of my vows to my sexually addicted husband. Can you imagine looking at your husband after his years of lying to you and using pornography to satisfy himself and saying, "where you go, I will go. Where you stay, I will stay. Your God, will be my God. Your people will be my people." No. Me neither, but I did. 

In these pages, you'll find out how that happened, but also how many other women with their own stories have withstood and overcome. I have learned over time. I am not alone. We are not alone. This place is a place where your voice can be heard.

Welcome, I'm glad you're here. 

Resilient Ruth